mental wellness

New Year, Not So New Me

So, here I am, sitting with my cup of coffee, huddled under a blanket, gazing outside and I’m thinking about the new year that lays ahead.

New year

‘New year new me’

New Years resolutions

New year ‘goals’

Its brand spanking new and you know what? I’m over it. Yep, I said it, New Years is not for me.

Not because I want to stay rooted in the past, nor am I worried about what the approaching year will bring. It’s just, well, it’s pressure.

It’s pressure to change. It’s pressure to eat ‘well’, to loose weight.

It’s pressure to do more exercise, to commit, to ‘shape up’.

It’s pressure to start new things, to leave things that don’t serve you in the year that you’re leaving behind.

You’re probably thinking ‘hold on Lucy, all of these points that you’re making sound pretty positive.’

Maybe they are for some people. But what about when those new found promises start to slip and the changes you so desperately wanted to make, aren’t happening? You begin to feel like a failure, you may start to envy others who have the body you dream of having or the career you’ve always wanted. Self hate and doubt start to creep in and you’re left with a sadness that you just can’t seem to shake.

So what if we don’t do it? We don’t give ourselves empty promises to fulfil and instead we focus on the positivity that has always been within reach.

Take a look back and realise how far you’ve come, how much you’ve achieved. Even the small steps, the ones that you didn’t think amounted to much are building up to something amazing. So hold on tightly, with both hands.

There will undoubtedly be times when limits are pushed, when the mind becomes clouded with ‘what ifs’ and ‘maybe just this once’ and after hearing diet talk and weight loss chatter and it’s easy to believe that jumping on the bandwagon of weight loss and ‘clean eating’ is what’s best for us (I mean everyone’s doing it and the masses can’t be wrong…. can they?) It’s difficult (especially at this time of year) to avoid and distance ourselves from it all. So what can we do?

We can remind ourselves over and over again how much better off we are now, how much we’ve battled through and accomplished. Yes it’s exhausting and of course there will be days when we just want to throw the towel in, but like I’ve already mentioned, we’ve got to cling onto the goodness with both hands until those fingers turn white!

So as I welcome in the new year, I will celebrate! But not for all the things that are left behind or the many changes that we believe will make us happy such as appearance, weight loss, worth, changing made up flaws or any other negative stuff. But for all the goodness that I can bring forward, all the lessons that I’ve learnt and the hurdles jumped, the weight gained, the happy memories and the mental stability that I treasure.

So join me in welcoming the new year with joy and the knowledge that we are fabulous just as we are!


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